What if they're wrong?
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So guys! I'm so excited for this year! I'm so expectant and I know that this year is going to be an absolutely fantastic year for us!! I don't think I've ever felt this hopeful before, but there's just something in the spiritual air that has me dancing and super excited for what's about to happen in this year.
I just want to say a big thank you to everyone that's been reading my blog. I really appreciate you and I pray that this year will be your best year you've ever experienced!!!
Anyways, today I'm going to be writing about a topic that I wanted to discuss last year, but because of the holiday season, I didn't think it was the best time to discuss it. So here it goes...
So there's this christian couple that I really admired. The husband is a pastor and they're quite a popular couple. Anyways, while they were in the limelight, there were a few grumbles about the wife because of the way she dressed. Some people thought she wasn't representing God well by dressing a certain way and others thought she had a right to dress however she wanted to.
I'm not going to be giving my opinion on this, but what I learnt from this and so many other christians who are well known, is that you can't let the way other people live their lives determine how you live yours.
I think we're so fast to admire people who hold a certain position and have similar values to us. The issue is that sometimes, we find ourselves saying "they do it, so it must be fine", or "if they can do it, so can I". Except, we're all different individuals, with different value systems, so we shouldn't use someone else's values to determine what we think is right or wrong. What if they're wrong?
I mean when I first came across the couple, I was quite young and I thought, "if this woman who's a christian can do this, then why can't I?" The error in thinking this way is that we disregard the fact that they're only human. Which means, they can make mistakes and their values can based on their upbringing and background.
You may meet someone who seems to have a similar background to you, but one thing is certain, you're not the same people. There will always be a difference. My siblings and I were raised by the same parents, but we're very different people and we also have different experiences.
Being a first born, my parents were stricter with me, now they're soft (haha). But it's the same parents that took care of me, that also took care of my siblings.
As much as I'd love to be a perfect template for my siblings, I acknowledge that I'm not perfect. I make mistakes and some times my opinions can be wrong. I mean God is still working on me. So imagine if my siblings mirror the errors that I make, simply because I'm a christian and I'm a good person etc. What if I'm wrong and they follow my error, even when it doesn't feel right to them? That would be so sad.
Look, nobody is perfect. Nobody is the perfect template for how to live your life.
That's why we shouldn't model our lives according to the way others live theirs. It's like we forget that we all have different paths to take in life. The only perfect template for how to live your life is Jesus. He lived life so perfectly and gave Himself for us that we might enjoy eternal life with Him and that we might draw close to the Father.
He's the epitome of love and His life on earth and the values that He laid for us, are the perfect values to hold. Values of love, kindness, righteousness etc.
I think it's very important that become introspective. We need to ask ourselves why we do the things we do? Is it because we saw someone else doing it, or is it because we believe it's right?
What has informed the decisions that you've made and the decisions that you're still making? Just because it worked for someone else doesn't mean it'll work for you. Where do you get your value systems from? Is it from social media, your parents, your friends or just society in general?
I say this all the time, but y'all need to know that society changes and evolves all the time. Sometimes in a great way and sometimes in a horrid way. So imagine basing my values on a society so fickle that its standards of beuty, moral etc channge so often.
It's not a bad thing to realise that someone that you admire has gotten it wrong, or just simply that you don't agree with the opinions or values of someone that you admire. Because, like I said no one, but Jesus is perfect.
So going into this new year, I think it's important that we check and evaluate the people that we're following and instead, follow Jesus. He's the perfect example. Man fails in so many ways, but God never fails. HE forever remains constant and I can fully testify to that. Re-evaulte your life and your values and if it doesn't sit right with your spirit, maybe question it.
I wish you all a fantastic and beautiful year!!! It 's going to be amazing guys!! I can feel it.
As always, your baby girl Esther loves you and God loves you more.