Adulthood is a scam, or is it?
Guys! One of the main things I've learnt growing up is that adulthood is a scam. It's an absolute scam. I mean, I remember being little and wanting to be a grown up. I wanted to put on make up, strut my stuff, become a musician, actress and dancer and have loads and loads of money.
I used to imagine having my own private plane and jet and flying around different countries as an adult. Loooool not once did I think adulthood was work. It didn't even occur to me that the adults were having a hard time or were battling through their own issues. As a kid, I was engulfed in the world I'd created for myself. I only ever thought about school, friends, tv and my barbie dolls.
I thought adulthood meant freedom, fun and loads of time to just play and have fun and I wanted to get there as soon as possible. I couldn't wait to be done with school and start living life to the fullest. Then I grew up and adulthood said "Psych!!"
I really wish I was joking, but it's really not what I thought it would be like. It's both worse and better.
Let me just start by saying that I hate the fact that this world has dictated a life order to us. As adults we're expected to work to get money which would then help us either survive or live a comfortable life. Then we're supposed to use the little remaining pockets of time to find little points of enjoyment or rest. If you want to live a little more lavishly than others, you have to create multiple streams of income which in turn means that you spend more time working and less time belonging to yourself.
It's like the world is telling us that this life isn't ours. Instead, we're supposed to live our life in labour with "moments" of "me time". Don't you find it funny that we actually say "me time"? Shouldn't it always be time for ourselves and then we can then decide to donate a bit of that time to other things? Why should we have to carve out time for ourselves? Even the term "to carve" sounds hard and laborious.
Now, don't get me wrong, I know that it's not everybody that lives their life like this. Some people are either lucky enough to be financially settled, or extremely smart to have invented or created something that gives them the liberty to take their time back.
But the general norm of life is that most people live their lives working to stay afloat or to stay wealthy and comfortable. From the moment you become an adult, a certain responsibility shifts to you. A weight that wasn't there before suddenly lands on your shoulders.
The questions start coming, "when will you get a job"? "when will you marry?" when will you have children?" "are you not going to get a house?" The responsibility becomes endless. Then the emotional weight comes as well. You suddenly have to come to the realisation that some of the people that you grew up with haven't lived as long you've had the grace to. Then the stress and emotional pressures that increase as we move further into the cycle of life.
The issue is that it's not just the people on the outside that push us, but we also push ourselves. At some point you have to ask yourself what the point of everything you're doing is. Why are you on earth? What's the purpose of being created and being on earth if it's just to grow, work, find pockets of time for enjoyment, breed children who start the same journey and then you die? Why are we in this cycle of life? A cycle created by this world.
I'm not gonna lie, I've pondered this question a few times and I'm happy I have an answer for myself. I think it's really important that you search within yourself to figure out what your purpose is. Not the mundane cycle of work, money, little fun, sleep and then back to work. But a reason to live in fullness. P.S. my reason is God.
I said adulthood is a scam, but I also said it's a blessing. It's a blessing to me because I found God in adulthood. And in finding God, I found joy and purpose. So I've determined that I'm not going to live my life for work, but I'm going to live my life for God. That hope and that faith brightens my day and fills my life with joy and victory.
There's nothing as amazing as feeling the presence of God and knowing that God is with You. Knowing that God hears you, cares about you and answers you. It's one of the most precious things ever. So yeah, in finding God, I found purpose. When I write and express the lessons I've learnt, or talk about the things God has shown me, I feel full. When I talk about God and just discuss His word, I feel so excited and happy. So now I feel like I'm living my life in Christ and donating my time to other things. It's still a balancing act, but I feel less lost and I feel like I've escaped the scam.
Adulthood isn't even really just about your age, it's about the time of responsibility. The saying, "with greater power, comes greater responsibility" is very apt. The more you have, the more you owe. Which means the more weight you have to carry.
Why do you think people who have millions or billions don't stop? It's because there's always more to be done. The responsibility increases. You were earning £70,000 per annum before and now you're earning £200,000 per annum, but you need to make more money because now you're living a different type of lifestyle.
You've got more people depending on you now, your family, your employees, those who attach themselves to you. Let's not forget your children and grandchildren, the aunts and uncles etc. So there will always be more to do, which means you will always need more.
I genuinely feel sorry for people who are in this endless cycle without God. It all seems so pointless to me, but God makes it all worth it. Again, don't get me wrong, you'll definitely have your moments of pleasure, fun, victory etc. If you're lucky, you'll find a cause that you feel passionate about and try to be a part of change, but at the end of the day, what does it all mean?
I'm so sorry guys, I didn't even think it was gonna sound so depressing, but I think it's important that we acknowledge that life tries to box us up into a lifestyle and journey and we have to consciously remove ourselves from that and determine how we want to live our lives.
It's up to you to decide if you're going to let life toss you around in its endless cycle, or if you're going to remove yourself from the cycle and live a fuller life outside of what the world has dictated to you. So what's the answer? It's God.
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Once again, I love you and God loves you.